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Describe how the goals we choose are related to the emotions we feel. Offer personal illustrations.
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It is helpful for me to see how sin has corrupted our lives, particularly to the God-given capacity to desire, perceive, choose and feel. As a result of that we often choose goals that may be perceived to be critical, that can truly satisfy us but are not central to our needs as image bearers of God.
Sin has caused us to pursue goals other than the pursuit of God. However there is no guarantee that these goals will be achieved, which makes us anxious, especially if we think they are critical to our well being. This also result in anger when anything or anyone is perceived to be blocking these goals that are so “integral” to our sense of fulfilment. .
Finally, as we begin to see our inability to reach these goals, we begin to develop a sense of self-hatred.
The closest example I have is my pursuit for a “perfect” soul mate in my younger days, one that I saw as necessary to have a good marriage. This led to unrealistic expectations, disappointment, anger and even self-hatred when I perceived that I was the cause of the breakdown of relationships. I was demanding what only God can meet. -
I would say not just my goals, but likely every area of my life decisions. Unfortunately, I’ve probably driven by emotions more often than not- although I wouldn’t want to admit it. Specifically anything from emotional eating to feel better or reactionary arguments with my spouse or coworkers are all driven by emotional responses, and/or seeking an emotional reaction from an action (like eating). Emotions are all linked to decisions for me so it is difficult to separate any of it.
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We often choose goals (a target to move towards) largely based on our emotions/feelings. If we feel unnoticed and want attention, we will choose goals that are awarded with attention/praise.
I need to reflect more how this impacts me as an adult. As a young person, I wanted to feel good about myself and appease everyone around me, so I was very driven towards success/good behavior.
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I tend to choose goals that give me immediate satisfaction or that give me recognized feels. I look to things that have worked in the past.
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Describe how the goals we choose are related to the emotions we feel. Offer personal illustrations. I had a difficult mom growing up. I could never satisfy her standards; if i cleaned well but it wasn’t good enough for her, I was chastized and belittled. I felt very sad and like I never measured up. I felt unloved due to my lack of performance; therefore, I set goals and created strategies, mostly relationally, where I could succeed and be applauded. As a young adult, I kept my house spottless and was successful in my workplace. My husband and pricinipal praised me, giving me a sense of satisfaction and love. Sadly, i was a Martha for many years! But , by God’s grace and mercy, he’s been showing me that my identity and worth do not come from my accomplisments or even my good reptuation, but His Righeousness. It has been an especially difficult lesson, but I’m thankful for his loving kindness and shepherding.