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Describe how the goals we choose are related to the emotions we feel. Offer personal illustrations.
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Goals are often use to suppress emotions
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I will share a goal I am currently aware of. I am struggling in a relationship that is important to me. I feel scared of losing it, and try to feed it in ways that are not motivated by love. I do kind deeds, say words that are nice etc, but my deeper goal is to manipulate the person to stay in relationship with me, not true love. My goal needs to be to relate with her, out of a deeper goal. The deepest goal in my soul must be to find and know God. This is the truest thirst in my soul.
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I want to reuse the Illustration of being in debt. The goal of being in debt was to get out of debt. The emotions I felt for being in that position was despair. I felt like I was a slave. I was however feeling determined because of a deeper desire of necessity in my relationship with Jesus Christ.
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The goals we choose are typically a result of our perception of past experiences and events. Experiences that leave us feeling happy and satisfied become our goal, or alternately, bad experiences result in our goal to achieve the opposite of those experiences. Unfortunately, in our fallen state these goals become our most important desires as we naturally and foolishly try to do life independent of God. We are not even aware of the only goal which will bring us true satisfaction and wholeness, an understanding of our purpose in God’s plan and a real, intimate relationship with God.
Growing up I was an introvert, quiet, unassuming and unnoticed. I always felt like the unpopular, lonely girl. Unconsciously, when I got married, my primary desire and goal was love, understanding and fulfillment from my husband. As Dr. Crabb said, it was an important desire which I had made to be a desire of necessity. The result is exactly as Dr. Crabb presented, a feeling of loss of freedom, anger and frustration. I have started to realize that God must be first, but these lessons have bought much clarity to my understanding. -
It is easy to choose goal that gives us satisfaction, knowing that we have what it takes to accomplish the expected results. Therefore, I had been teaching Sunday School for young children for many years, feeling I could “master” it with ease. Little did I know before I got too complacent, I was asked to give a sermon on Sunday School Sunday, took up the Sunday School ministry at church. Since that time, I had been teaching Sunday schools for all ages. Each time feeling my own inadequacy and scrumbling to get courses going. Over and over, God has His own way to bring me on my knees to rely on Him and otherwise nothing else would work.