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Discuss (from personal experience, if possible) how the loss of freedom is related to the pursuit of hidden goals.
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For me, craving a sense of safety and security through work/career/salary turned work into my master. The work situation would cause me great anxiety but I would not attempt to look at it from a distance as I assumed keeping the job – rather than approaching God as the only source of safety – was the goal. This led to my feeling stuck and vulnerable and the loss of freedom.
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Well, when I decided to have a family, to be a good husband and a good father, I certainly lost the freedom to do whatever I want with my time and money. Sometimes I wish I could just pack up and fly off and take a break. But no, I can’t do that. My single friends could and I envied them for it. But this was not a hidden goal. I can’t think of any specific hidden goal right now.
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Requires certain behavior
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If I pursue the goal of needing a certain relationship, I lose the freedom to be who I really am! It ties me to behave in a certain way, rather than respond and relate as God wants me to.
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One of my “loss’ of freedom” came from the goal to have a wife. It resulted in a shallow relationship with Christ. When I decided to not make a wife my Goal. I decided to make my relationship with christ my goal. I was able to move out of the anger and self hatred and anxiety. I was able to move out of the things that held me back. And in pursuing God I then found a wife.