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Have you ever been stuck in one of the stages of grief discussed in this lesson? If so, what was helpful in moving you past that stage?
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When my brother passed away, I was stuck in denial for a long time. He had lived in another state for many years, so it was easy for me to not think about him being gone. It started to hit me several months later during the holidays. Then a sense of shame and guilt began as I regretted not staying in touch more often before his death. It was almost a year before I really became depressed over the loss. The busyness of my job helped me avoid thinking about it for a while. Then one day, it really hit me! He was gone! My brother loved Jesus and was someone I could turn to for strength in my faith. It was thinking about his faith that helped me cope with the loss. Thinking about how much faith he had, helped me move on with my life.
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Yes I went through a divorce and found no comfort from my church organization. People actually shoned me, i pick up on they probably didn’t know what to say so they avoided me. However, I went to God, asked His permission and I did a one day fast, 3 day fast and a 7 day fast. Not consecutively and all without any nourishment at all. I grieved for sometime because I was newly married and after 6 months in I was being mailed divorce papers. I spent 4 years going through the divorce after only 6 month’s of marriage. Bur God led me to reconnect with a friend who at some point we fell out over a misunderstanding. That became therapy for me, unknowingly she had gotten married and had a bad experience and horrible break up, she then went to counseling for 4 years, so by the time God reconnected us, she helped me by just being able to share and talk it through, pray about it. Also having to restart anew. It was God inspired. And by no one else wanting to help I was able to see God more readily and clearly for the path He had laid for me to take. Very humbled and appreciative.
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When my brother took his life three years ago, the shock phase was confusing and prolonged. Revelation after revelation of the things he had done kept coming for weeks. I seemed to go into shock, gather myself together and move out of shock, then be slammed back in by a new revelation. As this process continued, I understood more painful facts might emerge and when I accepted this would be the case, I found it easier to stay out of shock.
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In the past I have been able to handle grief pretty well. However, the last 2 years has brought so many losses (deaths) that I just feel overwhelmed. I feel all of the stages but lately depression has been the leader. I tend to isolate to cope. I always feel better when I force my self to interact with close friends and family.
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One of the grief I have ever felt so far it’s when I lost my dad. He’s my best friend. We play together alot I remember he was my men when we do play the contra game so I lost him during my high school that was when I started experiencing grieve. Self isolation, Depression started growing in me and I had no where to throw them. If I try to meet up with friends to see if it will work it seems worst so i get into self isolation until i turn everything to God on that same spot of isolating. And I notice sometimes it’s okay to grieve its a way of bringing you closer to God
