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In this lesson, Dr. Welch says, “There is no right way to grieve.” Do you agree? Have you ever seen someone grieve in a way that you thought was “wrong”? Explain.
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I agree with Dr.welsh that there’s no right way to grieve. Every person is different and their coping skills are different too. I have wondered when people never got over their loss even after years and years after the loss.
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We grieve when we are ready.
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My family has just went through the loss of my dad. June 26, 2023 my brother Jon found my dad who had already passed. There are four siblings in the family and each of us have been at different places in the stages of grief most of the time. My dad was a minister but also an alcoholic. He was very abusive emotionally and physically when we were children. This has placed an added substance to deal with in his death.
One of my brothers would get so angry and it was really hard to handle. He couldn’t seem to release the problems of the abuse so he was mixing it in with the grief. I did at times feel it was headed toward bitterness which is scary for me as I have seen what bitterness can do to an individual. I also felt like I was being attacked by my brother in his anger.
How I dealt with this is realizing that there are different stages of grief and my brother kept bouncing back to anger so I started directing our conversations in such a way so that he could work through the anger but move on from there to another stage and eventually acceptance and peace of the situaction.
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“There is no right way to grieve.” Do you agree?
I think there is not one only one way to grieve, there are very unhealthy ways of grieiving that lead to unhealthy patterns of thinking and can trap us in one phasse of grief. Grief for me is a lifelong process and it does not get easier it becomes more managable. Getting over it is not the goal – learning how to live after loss is the goal.Have you ever seen someone grieve in a way that you thought was “wrong”?
I have a friend who lost her son to sucicide and she has turned to mediums and psychics to be comforted and I would not advise anyone to grieve that way. I understand the reaasns why but cannot co-sign the mode of relief. -
When my mother passed away she had nine brothers. She was older than all except one. My uncles grieved by drinking alcohol. I know it was in an attempt to anesthesize the pain, But being her only daughter and traumatized by the sadness of her death I felt they should find another way to handle it. Many years later I understand this was their coping mechanism.
