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Of the three basic “don’ts” of SoulCare taught in this lesson, which one do you most often do? Why do you tend to do this? Of the three basic “do’s,” which one do you tend not to do, and why?
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I tend to offer character affirmations too early and I don’t tend to ask good questions.
The former because I feel sad for my client and the latter because I feel weak about asking the best level of intrusive inquiry. -
I probably offer support the most often. I think I do this because I want the person to feel good, and maybe they will share more with me.
I don’t think reflectively enough. I’m not too fond of silence, so I typically keep talking.
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The basic “Don’ts” I most often do is back away. I do this because I do not feel confident to help them . I believe that I often do the basic do’s-listen closely and expectantly, ask questions and think reflectively. I need to do these things more consistently and not jump ahead.
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I think I may sometimes offer trivialized care to someone, rather than seeking a fuller vision for their lives, I merely try to show them they are valuable in shallower ways. I probably do this because I am too quick to try and care, and need to refect and take more time to listen. I definitely need to be thinking reflectively more when someone shares, as I in my own life find more information and connected points when I stop and reflect. I think this is for the same reason as the other, I’m too impatient.
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Most often, I advise, or I use too. LOL! And as Pastor, I always offer support. Prayers, hugs, those sorts of things. And of the do’s, I thought I listened closely but I really didn’t. Many lessons learned here.