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Of the three basic “don’ts” of SoulCare taught in this lesson, which one do you most often do? Why do you tend to do this? Of the three basic “do’s,” which one do you tend not to do, and why?
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I’m guilty of all three of the don’ts, but the one most prevalent for me is offering support. When I speak to the newly diagnosed breast cancer patients, I always ask to pray with them and actually thought I was doing the right thing. Now I see it may be fine in some situations but not necessarily on the first conversation with them.
I’m the worst at listening intently. I think this is because my brain is already engaging about how I can help the person talking. Another reason could be because I’m a person that needs time to process, then respond later. Something I hope will get better as I learn more about helping others.
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I do all three don’t s but I guess I offer Scripture most.
I don’t do all three do’s but I don’t think reflectively the most. I always tend to speak first; something I will definitely need supernatural help for.
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I have not asked enough questions before giving advice. Partially is that I think that others would have told me what I need to know and may be culturally there is a barrier to how much I should pry into other’s privacy.
It’s also the awkward dead air that will make me talk more than necessary and I should have listen better.
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My top “don’t” would be to not advise. I have always felt that if someone was asking or telling me their situation, it was to get my opinion. The “if they didn’t want my opinion they shouldn’t have told me.”
I feel that when someone confides in me, I listen whole heartedly and give them my full attention. I never want anyone to think that I don’t care. The next one, which would be a close second would be to ask questions. I have a “let me see if I can help’ syndrome and to do that I have to ask questions. I am trying very hard now, to watch how I interact with others, and how I am responding.