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Of the three basic “don’ts” of SoulCare taught in this lesson, which one do you most often do? Why do you tend to do this? Of the three basic “do’s,” which one do you tend not to do, and why?
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I tend to offer support too early. More and more, I am broken by this. I think it is because of a fear of man.
For the “do’s,” I tend to not reflectively think right in the middle of the conversation. I think because in my job there is such limited time with each person.
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Of the don”ts I tend to offer advice and encouragement. This is often my common response which is often inadequate because there is a depth to the issues raised that only God can work through
Of the dos I can be guilty of not listening attentively so I can engage and gain a deep understanding of the information being presented.
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Of the three “don’ts,” I most often offer support. I want to reassure them that they are not walking through it alone because I have had to. Maybe I want for them to avoid the pain of journeying through their struggles alone and without SoulCare.
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I always offer advice, through a devotional, sermon shared, encouraging words, scripture to stand on, a book shared. I tend to do this because I believe the advice is helpful to move them onto the next step of their journey.
Of the Dos, I find myself listening closely and expectantly, thinking I can be of help by offering some type of advice. I want to fix the problem or issue.
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I would say of the “don’ts” list I used to offer “support” in the form of prayer, or simple platitudes that held no power, because I did not feel I had anything to offer that would help. I have been going through several courses over the past 3-4 years now and have learned that this is not helpful at all and is usually more damaging. Of the “do’s” list I would say I need to be more reflective and REALLY THINK about what the person is saying to me and really listen well, so that I can then ask good questions to help them see God working in their lives as well.