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Of the three basic “don’ts” of SoulCare taught in this lesson, which one do you most often do? Why do you tend to do this? Of the three basic “do’s,” which one do you tend not to do, and why?
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I find that I tend to advise and “help” someone “see” what the Lord has shown me. Only – the LORD showed it to me and not another. I also think it is the teacher in me as I have taught children for close to thirty years.
Of the three “do’s” I find that I tend not to ask questions. I am a thinker and reflector by nature. I can listen to someone all day but find that I go to the advising afterwards instead of questions. I am learning to listen to the Spirit on what questions to ask!
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Of the three basic “don’ts,” I tend to offer support most often. Reason being, I’ve seen this done all my life, and when I needed SoulCare, this is what has been done to me. Of the three basic “do’s,” I pretty much balance between listening closely and reflective thinking, rarely asking questions. I suppose I do this because it’s a big part of my personality. I really don’t like jumping in with a bunch of questions until I’ve really analyzed the situation to a degree.
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Of the three basic don’ts I normally back away. This happens because either I feel inadequate or what is being shared has touched an area in my life that I have not dealt with.
Of the three basic do’s I tend listen closely. I listen closely because I don’t want to just here with my natural ear, but my spiritual ear.
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For the “don’ts” I have previously most often moved to advisement because I “thought” I knew what would help the person I was talking with. Obviously, that was foolish and it did not help move the person to “release the good” that was in them. On the “do’s” the one I tend not to do is to think reflectively, because I am looking to immediately help the person – not seeking more deeply from God and His manner in which He is working in the person’s life.
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The “don’ts” that I often do is to give support because that is something that I do that I can have control of. By not giving support e.g. offering to pray for the person, I felt inadequate.
The “do’s” that I tend not to do is to listen attentively because I am often distracted by my own thoughts of finding ways to ‘help’ her and my attention was diverted. I know it is a vicious cycle, as when I didn’t actively listen to what the person said, I cannot response appropriately to give her the help she seeks.