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    Of the three basic “don’ts” of SoulCare taught in this lesson, which one do you most often do? Why do you tend to do this? Of the three basic “do’s,” which one do you tend not to do, and why?

    Austin replied 1 month, 3 weeks ago 75 Members · 79 Replies

  • Austin

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    01/05/2023 at 17:36

    Of the three don’ts; I have the tendency to give advice early on and not taking the time to listen and find out what is really going on in the other person and also what am I feeling at the time.
    Of the three do’s; I fail to really listen and try to understand why the person is going through the struggle that they are having.

  • Austin

    Administrator
    12/22/2022 at 15:57

    “Don’t support”
    I often want to rush to points of validation for the person sharing deep things with me. That way they don’t shut down or wonder if I’m casting judgement.

    “Do think”
    I struggle to process in the actual moment I’m hearing information but I’m not sure how to create space to think without losing the other person. Perhaps I need to learn some conversational ways to incorporate quiet within a conversation.

  • Austin

    Administrator
    12/18/2022 at 22:00

    I tend to offer affirmation as I have felt I needed to be an encouragement to the person. But I can now see that it may make the person feel that I do not understand the gravity of the issue(s) they are facing.
    I haven’t been asking questions as I didn’t want the person to think I was being intrusive. My previous training has been to listen, only using minimum encouragers or mirroring the last part of their sentence to help the person continue sharing. I now see that asking questions shows genuine interest, for which I imagine any person with a burden would feel glad.

  • Austin

    Administrator
    12/05/2022 at 05:26

    One “don’t” I often do is give advice, I think it comes instinctively because I sometimes think that if someone meets me with a problem and I have experienced something similar I tend to advise them based on what helped me through that experience.
    A “do” I don’t do often is ask questions, I do ask questions but not so much. I listen closely and reflect more often.

  • Austin

    Administrator
    11/07/2022 at 22:22

    Don’t – I tend to offer support through prayer and words of encouragement. I do this because I thought this would make a person feel better about themselves.
    Do – I understand how critical it is to listen and gather as much information as you can from what is being said. I believe by listening and showing real interest in what is being said, the person may relax, share more and go deeper.

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