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Reflect on the C. S. Lewis quote: “No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.” In what ways do you think grief feels like fear? How does that make coping with grief/loss difficult?
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Going through grief is scary and not knowing what the next day will bring or how it will feel. That is the fear. If you lost your partner, you now take on their role and responsibility and that can cause fear. The feeling you have inside of loss is fearful because not feeling like yourself is scary too.
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I think that grief and fear are similar because sometimes we are not able to control them. My son passed away 12 days ago. He was 24-years-old. He had Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, so we knew this day would come some day if Jesus didn’t return first. But even though we had time to prepare, we simply were not ready to say goodbye. The grief comes in waves. I have good moments and I have bad moments. Sometimes the smallest little thing sparks a major bursting into tears. I can’t control it – it just happens. Fear is similar. I am deafly afraid of snakes and rats. I don’t want to be – I just am. As human beings, we want to be in control. And sometimes we simply are not. I think that is what makes coping with grief/loss so difficult.
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Like fear you are entering new a new and different experience , a new new and different experience sometimes with some one who had made that journey with you before. you are making that journey alone. that in itself is different.
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Grief is like fear because of the emotions brought forth by grief. Like fear, grief generates feelings of aloneness, helplessness, desire to run away with no way of escape, recalls of would, could, should, and scrambled thoughts. In a moment of fear there is a tendency to grab the nearest thing to you and squeeze or hold it tight. Grief, like fear, will cause one to question themselves asking how they contributed to the situation and can things go back to the way they were. This makes coping with grief/loss difficult because it’s hard to hold onto what is no longer physically present.
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When my dad was dying, I was very afraid of losing my best friend. I just recently lost a good friend of mine. My brother in law’s are ill. My husband is ill. I am his caretaker. Sometimes I want to cry out, “God are You there? Please have mercy on us. Where have You been?” I am a Hospice Counselor. It doesn’t get easier. People think that it does, but it doesn’t. I still am anxious and have fear. Fear of not being able to talk with my best friend, my dad. Fear of losing my husband someday.” I know God is there. I know God hears me. But sometimes I wonder where He is.
