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What keeps you from being more curious about another person’s reality?
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What often keeps me from trying to SoulCare and be relational into another person’s life,Is because sometimes we are afraid of seeing something we may can’t handle concerning another Image beareror seeing into something very dark about someone that leaves us cofused on how we can help them.
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I think in my case, nature of people i meet. In the country where i live,most challenges are related to poverty, unemployment, food crisis etc. sometimes i am helpless.
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I’m glad you asked that. I am curious, but what stops me being actively curious, is my difficulty with framing my question as an open question, rather than a closed question. I’m not too good at thinking on my feet (typical introvert I think). The question in my head might be, ‘Where do you live?’ What I really want to know is do they have family, are they from this town, do they live in their own home, are they renting? All these questions are closed questions and I am aware I ask mainly closed questions upon first meeting someone. I could say, ‘What are your living arrangements?’ That sounds too interview-ish.
I am fine once we begin to talk beneath the surface. It’s easier to ask open questions like, how did you feel about that? What do you really want to happen? What makes that so hard for you?
Since I started these courses, I have thought I needed to make a list of open questions one could ask at the beginning of a conversation with someone new that cover the basics and may naturally lead to something deeper. That’s my homework. -
I believe there are several reasons we hesitate about showing curiosity in another person’s reality. One reason could be the feeling of inadequately as was discussed in the lecture. A feeling of inadequacy because I am may not be fully in touch with what’s going on inside of me. A second reason for hesitation could be not knowing how to approach the journey reality in a way that makes the other person feel like I really care about them and want to know them; instead of me being someone who just want to pry. A third reason for hesitation could be whether the person I am trying to provide SoulCare to believe that I have what it takes to help them.
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Fear of being inadequate.