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Why do you think people often struggle with a feeling of helplessness after the loss of a relationship?
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I think people often struggle with a feeling of helplessness after a loss of a relationship because we can get caught up in the notion of ‘what if,’ ‘what did I do wrong,’ and ‘if only I had…’ very easily. The loss of relationship gives us the sense of a loss of control, and that definitely can make us feel helpless.
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The loss of a relationship leaves a hole inside. With that hole comes the feeling of lacking something. Until healing occurs, it can be easy to be stuck in that gloom and emptiness, because it seems in the moment like nothing can replace or bring healing. It takes time. Also, some relationship losses lead people to blame themselves or think they are not good enough, and this can make people feel helpless in their own skin, feeling the need to change lots of things or fix lots of things quickly. It can lead to basing your worth off of the loss, and that is dangerous but an easy pit to fall into.
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because the relationship was part of them
we are designed to be around people
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What life will look like is unknown
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It is because they feel a loss of control. They feel out of control, because there was no way they could have pre-empted the relationship to end this way. But I think people usually feel angry, apart from helpless. They may feel angry towards the party that ended the relationship or towards a third party that contributed to the breach in this relationship.
#loss