Discussion Questions
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In this lesson, Dr. Welch says, “There is no right way to grieve.” Do you agree? Have you ever seen someone grieve in a way that you thought was “wrong”? Explain.
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No one should judge you on how you should or should not grieve or Howe long. We all grieve in different ways.
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I do agree, “There is no right or wrong way to grieve’.
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Indeed what has gone has been gone. You can’t bring it back but only be comforted
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My friend Henry. He lost his wife. went to grief share. He volunteered all the time. His son had diabetes. We was able to talk about this subject cause my sister and brother both have diabetes. His son had it bad. Kidneys failing, loss of limbs just like my brother and sister. So, we pretty much listened to each other. Was there for each other at church and messaging. Well, his son passed away and I wondered why I hadn’t heard from him. My friend asked me. You were close to Henry. I said I haven’t heard or seen him. She told me he committed suicide. I wish I could have been there for him.
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I believe everyone grieves differently, each with a different level of love. My grandparents passed away, and I experienced grief, but deeper grief than that of my cousins. I feel that my grief was deeper because of the love that I shared, the memories that I held, and the close relationship that was built. When my mother passed, I was distraught, experienced chaos and confusion, and I was overcome with anger. Some people withdraw, requiring solitude, others mourn in pain. Yes, there is a difference in grieving.
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Reflect on the C. S. Lewis quote: “No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.” In what ways do you think grief feels like fear? How does that make coping with grief/loss difficult?
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In my opinion, grief as well as fear are emotions that we all experience.We are mostly familiar with fear because that is common. We always encounter fearful situations. It is common knowledge. When we experience grief it is like an upgraded fear. It causes an emptiness it is a great uncertainty about the future. Fear is part of the grief or maye it is a symptom or it is grief going by another name. It is hard to come up with a differentce between the two emotions so that’s the reason why people didn’t tell C.S. Lewis.They are the same terrifying feelings .
It makes coping with loss difficult because we feel helpless.It takes away our energy, strength appetite and will power. It cripples us mentally and physically. That is the reason for the Bible to encourage that we mourn with those that mourn and that we should pray for those that are weak. It takes God to strengthen us. He it is that restores us. -
I agree that grief can feel like fear. Everyone processes grief and fear differently. It depends on our beliefs, culture and how we were brought up. There are many variables. In my experiences grief usually happens unexpectantly. Because I have the Lord in my life, I am able to find hope and peace while going through the grieving process. Grief and fear causes anxiety due to not knowing what is to come. If we continual to have faith that the Lord is always with us to help us through the journey we can find peace.
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This is the first time I have thought about grief and fear. There is a fear about the unknown and not knowing what my world will look like in the future. I recently went through an unexpected retirement from my job and I feel that the sudden loss of my job and things I was familiar with does scare me. I feel like I lost myself and I can now see an element of fear in that.
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We have an illusion that we are in control. When loss comes we are faced with the fact that we are not in control of anything. Fear of the unknown and loss seem to be common and cause like reactions.
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I think grief feels like fear. When I lost my father, I was young. And something fear came to me about the future that made me so scared to live to be continuing without my father. I felt the need for someone to guide me through. I was still a baby Christian at that time.